Unlocking your X factor
Ever wondered what truly draws us to another person? Beyond the obvious, there's a mysterious 'X Factor' at play. Discover this unique connection and how it shapes our relationships, helping you understand yourself and others better on Sex@ndcity.com.
What is the X factor?
So what actually is the X factor? It is that particular thing which shows beyond the chemicals and algorithms our brain needs to produce this connection, called the slow burn effect or just a crush. This is the way our brain rewires its connection with someone whom we may not find attractive at the beginning, but with time spent, somehow everything just happened. We don't choose it, our brain does. What actually made our brain choose this particular person?
Is it the way they look or the way they act?
Yes and No.
Why our brain chooses familiar connections
Our brain looks for familiarity. Studies show that in most cases, we choose that specific person because they remind us of family figures. So, this, submitted with chemistry and biology, creates everything.
How actually does this happen?
The science behind the crush: hormones and the X factor
Our brain produces hormones called endorphin, dopamine, and serotonin. Endorphin is the hormone which our brain releases as a natural painkiller or causing euphoria. Then, dopamine gives our brain the reward we are looking for and also gets produced every time we have certain food; that way, our brain gets rewarded. At this particular stage, our brain messes up with our emotions, so we think about our crush more often, and that gives us an emotion or a pleasure.
Serotonin is the hormone that regulates our emotions. As soon as this chemical drops off, we start to feel happy, and we actually enjoy the thought about our crushes. Those particular thoughts about our crush are affecting us the same as a type of addiction; we do think about them over and over again. And the last is the X factor, which is that certain thing which makes the connection, so we just get a crush on the person our brain chooses, even when they are complete opposites of us. So even a scientist can explain how this mixture of biology, chemistry, and factor X takes over our minds.